Approaching your partner about relationship counseling can be intimidating and maybe even challenging. If you are struggling with how to start the conversation, we are going to discuss some ways that could be the inspiration your partner needs to jump on board with you.
Approach With Caution
Not really, but it’s a catchy headline. Obviously, in the middle of an argument isn’t the most opportune time to bring up counseling. Number one, emotions are high, and the tone of voice when it comes out would more than likely be taken as a jab at your partner. It’s important to avoid “you” phrases. Pointing the finger at someone else is going to put them on the defensive, which is the opposite effect you want to have when trying to get someone to agree with you. Instead, try one of these suggestions below:
- Choose the timing carefully – Make sure when you do decide to have the conversation it is during a time that is convenient for both of you and enough time that you don’t feel rushed. And not while emotions or tensions are high.
- Connect emotionally – Tell your spouse or partner something you appreciate about them, or do an activity together to invite a peaceful environment.
- Keep your voice calm and your ears open – It’s okay and may even be a good idea to ask to be able to finish speaking before your partner speaks. However, you need to give the same respect back as they respond and share their opinions.
- Focus on Your Relationship – Don’t place blame, avoid too many “I” statements. Improving the relationship should be your angle, not changing your partner.
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